It’s tough to know how to love sometimes.
Not so much the passionate romantic love.
Or the unconditional family love.
But the supportive ‘I’ll be there for you’ friendship love.
It’s easy to dive in to a friend’s celebration and share life’s ‘up moments’ hand in hand. That’s living intimately.
It’s hard not to feel sorry for friends who are going through tough times. It’s a human response and a natural part of friendship.
It’s harder to be readily available for a friend’s unfolding drama without entering its vortex or resisting the compulsion to fuel or feed it, as that’s being supportive.
It’s tough to simply listen and be witness without taking their situation on as a personal mission to fix, as that’s what friends ‘do’ when shouldering a burden.
I find it tough to know how to love sometimes. Then I found a wonderful piece by don Miguel Ruiz which guides us on how to love – well.
Love is compassionate and respectful, but doesn’t feel sorry for anyone.
If someone falls, compassion helps you to say, ” Stand up. You can do it.”
Compassion comes from respect, and is the result of knowing that others are strong enough and intelligent enough to make their own choices.
don Miguel Ruiz
I have complete faith my loved one’s have their own experiences to be opened up by, just as I do – often! That’s the only real way we learn and grow.
I know, to my core, we’re all damn amazing people with the strength and resilience to recover life’s tumbles primarily by our own actions with our friends standing by witnessing our achievements (with tissues and ice-cream), no matter how slow and steady, and ‘whoop whooping’ us every step, without feeling sorry for us or feeding our monsters and making them bigger and fatter and harder to slay.
Feel the love…