A few months ago I was scanning an interview about Tamara Jaber’s transformation during her recent stint on Dancing with the Stars –come on, stay with me here – it’ll be worth it..
The Scarlett Belle singer was devastated after splitting with her controversial hubby, Kyle Sandilands, in the first few weeks of the show but triumphed after drying her eyes and Fox Trotting herself into second place – 12 kilos lighter, dewy skinned, looking years younger and sparkling confidently.
After years of losing ‘herself’, floating along in her relationship, compromising herself for others and neglecting her health, she was asked how she ‘found’ the vivacious new Tamara.
Her reply was quite clichéd but for some reason – at 4pm on that idle Tuesday afternoon – it stopped me dead in my tabloid-trash-scanning tracks making me really think and ultimately deeply inspiring me. (Surely Who magazine has that effect on us all)
I clearly got that she had just one big decision to make….
Rather than completely unravelling in the public eye and sabotaging her ‘time in the sun’, she simply committed, then and there, to becoming the ‘best version of herself’ possible with her swift transformation proving the ultimate fruit of her labour of self-love.
So, what does becoming the ‘best version of yourself’ mean to you?
For me, it’s starting out on that conscious journey.
It’s realising and respecting that every decision I make, big or small, has the power to point (or thrust) me in the direction of living in my element with momentum, lightness, authenticity and freedom.
This would be the best version of myself.
On the flip side, every decision I make, big or small, also has the potential to render me mediocre, crumble my foundations, cripple my stride, drain my energy, barter my dreams, or have me shrink back for others needs to be met first and foremost.
Most importantly, I’m closer to the truth that every decision I make, big or small, affects others in some way.
Being the best possible version of myself is about making constant conscious choices.
The best version of myself:
- Doesn’t accept idleness or procrastination – from myself and others I care about
- Connects with others in a genuine way, even if that’s in silence with a smile
- Has a businesswoman mind with a philanthropist heart and a mothers soul
- Whenever possible, takes the opportunity to practice yoga, patience, cooking, humility, creative expression, minimalistic tendencies, honesty, new adventures, single-mindedness, passion and living with purpose
- Encourages the less socially acceptable and unattractive shadow parts of myself out into the sunlight, acknowledging their existence and accepting them
- Resists sleeping in, that extra glass of wine, sometimes even that first glass of wine, gossiping, cutting corners, inaction, half-hearted comments, obligation, tasks left unfinished and dreams left unrealised
I have a way to go yet!
Being 100% honest with myself, I’m 65% on my way to being the BVMP (The best version of myself possible).
So, I’m now in for one hell of a ride – Whoo HOO!!